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Female Friends

Female friends…thank God I have them.  I have heard numerous stories, negative portrayals, of women by women about how we relate to one another.  Sure, at times I am left confused by our interactions in workplace environments (but I will again address that at another time).  Likewise, there are those moments when we pass each other on sidewalks or in hallways and turn our heads.  Are we serious?  With all of the dangers that lurk, can we really afford to dismiss each other so easily or have we collectively agreed to each her own.  Friendship though, now that is different.  (Or is it?)  After all, we invite these relationships into our lives.

Friends

There have been times when, though my best efforts, I still seemed to end up with a few Judasettes in my crew.  Such is life, right?  All the while,  I defined—only to redefine—what friendship means to me.  In doing so, I learned more about myself.  Likewise, I began to pay even more attention regarding the world in which I live.

I understand that for me, it is vital that I have strong female friendships.  I not only want to hear, but I need to hear words of wisdom from wise women.  Why?  Well, I hear viewpoints—wise or not—from men all of the time and let’s face it, I am a woman.  I want to hear what other women, particularly wise ones, have to say.  (Iron sharpens iron.)

There are things that I experience because I am a woman and I want to hear of shared experiences, learn from similar experiences, avoid pitfalls, celebrate, guide, receive advice from, laugh, cry, encourage and be encouraged by people who know what I am talking about.  When I say, “It’s too hot to wear pantyhose,” I do not want to have to explain why. If I am asked, “What’s wrong,” and I respond, “Cramps”, I want that to end the conversation…for the day.  If I am addressed as “Hun” or “Dear” in a workplace environment (which I have been), I want support on how to best handle such a scene from a woman’s vantage point.  Also, spiritually, there are situations of faith where women may minister to me more effectively.

I am extremely thankful for the female friends I have.  My hope is that all women have a group of women who uplift, enhance, and advance their lives.  Maybe if we speak more on our positive experiences, others will too.  It will be evident that it is not only possible to have positive female friendships, but that they are plentiful.

Be well my Sisters,

You Talk To Her How?

Some women can be really nasty when speaking to another woman. Why is this? I have witnessed the way some women communicate with other women and I wonder if they are that aggressive when expressing their differing views to men. Some may have one non-discriminating style of speech, but not all. Really, what’s the deal? Why is respect tossed out the window when views differ between some women?

Woman Yelling At Woman

Last night, I watched a documentary on the history of women in politics. It was really interesting…It had to be for me to stay awake. (I’m still adjusting to the time change.) I read about many of these women, but it seemed different seeing actual footage of their struggles from being a viable candidate to working in a congressional club historically reserved for men only. I watched how they were unfairly and rudely treated by men in meetings and how as a result the women partnered across political party lines to form a network amongst themselves. They made time to get to know each other, allowing themselves to see pass the political imaging painted for their Washington arrival. Their bonds were so obvious that their male peers began to ask them what they were talking about, as if they had no business talking to each other…well, really talking with each other.

The documentary left me pondering…do we have to be positioned in situations which make us conscious that we are in the minority and overtly mistreated because we are women to commit—I mean really commit—to collectively uplift each other and our societal placement as women, and in turn vow to interact with each other at all times in respectful ways. Must things be that bad for us to be our sister’s keeper?

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