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People See What They Want

Whether we are talking about “race”, gender, politics, or religion — you name the “category” and you can easily find examples of how people will passionately expound what they “see”.  I do it.  You do it.  We all do it, but know this, “Truth cares not about our opinions.”

For John the Baptist came neither eating bread nor drinking wine, and you say, ‘He has a demon.’  The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and you say, ‘Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and “sinners.”‘  But wisdom is proved right by all her children.”  Luke 7:33-35

A few years ago I campaigned for public office.  Time and time again, I heard challenges to my “qualifications”.  This, I found interesting because I regularly saw other candidates with similar “qualifications” — college-educated, some were attorneys also, community-involved, etc. —, yet these shared “qualifications” somehow were accepted without question.  Was it because those candidates were white and male?  Note, I am/was neither.  Note also, I say, “and male”, because I have often seen white, female candidates’ “qualifications” publically challenged.

Rest

I remember an interview where Oprah was told that she would never make it (because she was deemed “unfit for television”).  Wait, similar sentiments were said about:  Rick Springfield, George Foreman, President Obama, Jack Canfield, Albert Einstein, Selma Hayek, Dr. Seuss, Steve Jobs, Michael Jordan, Walt Disney, Lucille Ball, Fred Astaire, Sidney Poitier, Steven Spielberg, Kerry Washington, Socrates, Abraham Lincoln, Marilyn Monroe, Vincent van Gogh, Emily Dickinson, Claude Monet, and many, many more.  Unfortunately, similar declarations are also made daily regarding the nation’s poorest children.  With every graduation, with every life lived productively, from this population a stereotype is defied.  They are considered failures because of their circumstance.

Who amongst us has never failed?

Who amongst us has tried and failed because their “qualifications” were not “packaged” in a particular body, or come at a particular time, or in a particular way in which the judges would approve?

John the Baptist came and was rejected.  The Son of Man came and He was rejected.  Some were rejected, to never be heard from again.  Others’ rejection propelled them to a stage of mass audience — an audience awaiting inspiration,  and onto a stage where wisdom abounds.

Do not be discouraged by people’s opinion.  People see what they want.  Truth is Truth.  It produces wisdom.  It assembles Family.

Don’t Get Stuck

Have you ever felt like your community—however you relate that word to yourself—had betrayed you?  A few months ago, I had my most recent conversation with an artist in which she expressed to me how she handles the feeling of being rejected by many of her friends and associates who only seem to find worth in her talents after learning others in other cities and States appreciate her work.  This was not the first time I had heard this expressed, but it was the first time I consciously searched for understanding how others handle it.  You see, I have experienced this too.  At first, its hurt was like a stringer of a bee.  Over the years, I have learned that this seems to be a common sentiment of those of us with this experience.  Not wanting to become emotionally blocked, I searched and found a perspective that propels my advancement.

Jesus said to them, “Only in his hometown, among his relatives and in his own house is a prophet without honor.”  He could not do any miracles there, except lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them.  And he was amazed at their lack of faith.  Then Jesus went around teaching from village to village.  Mark 6:4-6

There came a time when I had to consciously ask myself, “Do you want God’s best for your life or don’t you?”  Once I aligned myself to, “YES”, an internal shift happened.  As a result, I began to step away from those things that do not support my offering, not with a feeling of bitterness but with the certainty of knowing that I have work to do.

1 woman walking away

Sure, being rejected is painful but don’t let it make you stuck—mentally, physically, or spiritually.  Go into your destiny, in faith, knowing that God has the resources to get you there.  Pray for God’s protection and if you meet a “closed door” (however that may manifest), believe that God will open another one.  After all, God wants you to reach your destiny and what He has for you is greater than what you can see, think, or imagine.  You have to be willing to go through the process to get there.

Focus.

Don’t get stuck.  God loves you too much to let you remain average.  We were uniquely made, designed to stick out, instructed to shine.  Some will support that.  Others will not.  Do not become distracted.  Do not complain.  Do not stop working, but take note.

Go forth, in new territory, in expectation. Your blessings are waiting.  Enjoy them.  …and remember, bless others.

Hometown Experience

What do you do when people have a love-hate relationship with your spiritual gifts and talents?  “How dare you operate in your divine essence,” is what their rejection is actually stating.  Can you handle their repudiation and still be great, or are you going to allow naysayers to define your worth and in turn wither like a dried flower?  To my surprise, this predicament is more common than I first realized.

Coming to his hometown, he began teaching the people in their synagogue, and they were amazed.  “Where did this man get this wisdom and these powers?” they asked.  “Isn’t this the carpenter’s son?  Isn’t his mother’s name Mary, and aren’t his brothers James, Joseph, Simon, and Judas?  Aren’t all his sisters with us?  Where then did this man get all these things?”  And they took offense at him.

But Jesus said to them, “Only in his hometown and in his own house is a prophet without honor.” 

And he did not do many miracles there because of their lack of faith.  —-Matthew 13:54-58

A couple of weeks ago I met a fellow Christian woman who is pursuing avenues to introduce to the world her artistic talent.  We had a very candid conversation about how she has noticed that she receives significantly more love and support for her work from people in cities, not her hometown.  Isn’t that interesting?  Not really!  Such behavior dates back to biblical times.

You know, God has a way of orchestrating a meeting amongst His children to meet a need.  My newfound friend spoke in truth, not in bitterness.  It was refreshing to hear her honest feelings about this and how she has grown to handle it with grace and humility, as I have too struggled with understanding this very thing.  You see, what many people fail to grasp is that when we (specifically, Christians) are operating in our spiritual gifts and using our talents as a service to people, we are doing so by faith.  The sacrifices we make are by faith.  The decisions we make are by faith.  The discipline we exhibit is by faith.  Things you can see and those things you do not see are all connected by faith.  We know that, but those who lack faith discourage. As a result, such continues the self-fulfilling prophecy and mentality that nothing good can ever come from a place such as this.

Woman Praying

That day, my friend and I departed not knowing when or if we would see each other again.  God, in his beautiful style of communicating with me, placed us again in the same place at the same time.  This time, however, I was able to see her work with about two hundred other hometown people.  They were impressed and gave her a standing ovation.

Knowing what I know, she is prepared to offer her hometown more of her gifts and talents.  There may continue to be missed opportunities, not because of her desire but because of the rejection of gatekeepers who refuse to allow her in.  By faith she is not afraid to step into unknown environments to share what God has given her.  By faith she will continue to be blessed.

Don’t let the heartbreak of your neighbor’s envy or their lack of faith deter you from being a blessing to others.  We are spiritually gifted and talented to share these things with and to serve others.  Don’t consent with those who devalue your gifts and talents.  Know your worth.  If the audience before which you stand cannot see your value, or do not want to accept that you are valuable, don’t be bothered.  Someone’s trash is another person’s treasure.  Know that you are treasured.

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