Excuse Me Little “Black” Girl,
Yes you. I am talking to YOU! I know, I know…. You want to know, “Why?” Believe me when I say, “I understand your skepticism”. I have confidently interrupted you for no reason other than that you are female and black.
Is that a crime?
No…well, some may think so on two counts but in this case NO! To the contrary, I have stopped you to encourage you to continuously set goals and envision achieving the impossible in this crazy world. Its manifestations are indeed possible!
I get it! I GET IT! Achieving goals is hard. No one said it would be easy!
The ability to overcome stereotypes about who you are—or who you are expected to be— combined with societal hindrances, both inter-and-intra-culturally, does not come with a manual. BREATHE! Life is not that easy.
These breaking-barrier conversations, in number and in depth, to obtain guidance are not readily-accessible. We are not mythical, however. Living examples of us are in fact around, but you (and we) are being conditioned to overlook our essence and devalue our worth.
“Your turn will come,” they will say, “after his and hers.” Time does not stop. Remember, “Nothing beats a failure but a try.” Your turn is now, just as his and hers. Truth is, our worth is your worth. Collective value carries weight. It is either relieving or burdensome. Be conscious and careful about what you cart. No one said it would be easy. You must push on and push through. Your dreams will resuscitate you. You will learn to trust that your help, meaning help that is specific to you, will come. Time will teach you to expect and to accept it in whatever form and time it appears. Experience will sharpen your ability to identify it. In turn, you will become aware that you are being shaped to be the help for others of which you seek. It is a process. Excuse me little “Black” girl, you are being transformed.
Allow yourself to learn your SELF. Be patient. This is a never-ending process. It must be embraced with (at times stubborn) determination. Media messages will tell you, and those around you, who you are. Songs and television shows will do the same. Religious interpretations and authority figures will have a say, as will community leaders—if you are mentioned at all. Find appreciation in the knowledge of other’s misperception of you, then confidently introduce yourself.
It was nice meeting you. Now you know WHY.