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Excuse Me Little “Black” Girl—Part 1

Excuse Me Little “Black” Girl,

Sad Girl

Yes you.  I am talking to YOU!  I know, I know….  You want to know, “Why?”  Believe me when I say, “I understand your skepticism”.  I have confidently interrupted you for no reason other than that you are female and black.

Is that a crime?

No…well, some may think so on two counts but in this case NO!  To the contrary, I have stopped you to encourage you to continuously set goals and envision achieving the impossible in this crazy world.  Its manifestations are indeed possible!

girl dreaming on laptop

I get it!  I GET IT!  Achieving goals is hard.  No one said it would be easy!

The ability to overcome stereotypes about who you are—or who you are expected to be— combined with societal hindrances, both inter-and-intra-culturally, does not come with a manual.  BREATHE!  Life is not that easy.

These breaking-barrier conversations, in number and in depth, to obtain guidance are not readily-accessible.  We are not mythical, however.  Living examples of us are in fact around, but you (and we) are being conditioned to overlook our essence and devalue our worth.

“Your turn will come,” they will say, “after his and hers.”  Time does not stop.  Remember, “Nothing beats a failure but a try.”  Your turn is now, just as his and hers.  Truth is, our worth is your worth.  Collective value carries weight.  It is either relieving or burdensome.  Be conscious and careful about what you cart.  No one said it would be easy.  You must push on and push through.  Your dreams will resuscitate you.  You will learn to trust that your help, meaning help that is specific to you, will come.  Time will teach you to expect and to accept it in whatever form and time it appears.  Experience will sharpen your ability to identify it.  In turn, you will become aware that you are being shaped to be the help for others of which you seek.  It is a process.  Excuse me little “Black” girl, you are being transformed.

Me 12.30.15 talking to group

Allow yourself to learn your SELF.  Be patient.  This is a never-ending process.  It must be embraced with (at times stubborn) determination.  Media messages will tell you, and those around you, who you are.  Songs and television shows will do the same.  Religious interpretations and authority figures will have a say, as will community leaders—if you are mentioned at all.  Find appreciation in the knowledge of other’s misperception of you, then confidently introduce yourself.

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It was nice meeting you.  Now you know WHY.

 

Walk In Truth

One day, after a staff meeting a much older attorney said to me, “You are different.”  I looked at her, not knowing what to say.  She continued, “I noticed that if someone says something that is not funny to you, you don’t laugh.  Others will laugh and say later it was not funny, but you won’t laugh.”  She went on to say, “I wish I could be like that.”

As I walked to my office, I thought about her observation.  It is interesting how on the surface, people will appear to be on the side of the majority yet have internal conflict.  It is also interesting how someone can long to be like you yet target you as their enemy.  Don’t take it personally.  Don’t take it lightly either.

Women Sitting Across From Each Other

When Jesus left there, the Pharisees and the teachers of the law began to oppose him fiercely and to besiege him with questions, waiting to catch him in something he might say.  —Luke 11:53-54

Why is it that some people will love and hate you for walking in your truth?  Why is there a “campaign” to find a flaw in those who may be perceived as perfect, but who do not profess to be?  What is gained by opposing someone who does a good work to better a people, when doing a good work to better a people is the proclaimed goal?

Jealousy, envy, and insecurity will destroy relationships.  These things will cause one to miss (or have delayed) the very blessing sent to them.  In a world where everyone is in need of something, who wants to miss a blessing?  I don’t!

There was a time when I thought people were how they appeared.  Now, I know that people are who they are.  Some will laugh when they find no humor.  Others will not.  Some will wish you well as you leave their presence, and mean it.  Others will not mean it.  Some are consistent with walking and growing in their truth.  Others wrestle with the stagnancy of their lie.  To each, his or her own.  People are who they are.

As for me, the testament to first know, then to accept, and now to embrace the truth of which I am and to which I am of have come with an understanding that Truth is greater than the lie.  Its existence does not have to be defended.  Truth will propel me forward unto new experiences, abundant blessings, and restful sleep.  Truth increases discernment, wisdom, and inner peace.  It establishes trust.

No, it is not always easy to walk in Truth.  Some get nervous when you show up and odd things happen after you leave, but others are comforted.  Be clear about your journey.  Are you on a road less traveled?  Walk in Truth.

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