Have you noticed that people will ask you, “Where have you been,” before asking you, “How are you doing”? What an interesting question. Still, I wonder what it really means. Clearly there is an expectation that you were supposed to be somewhere and was not. Where is this place which prompts more concern regarding one’s whereabouts than of a person’s wellbeing?
Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”
So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place. (Mark 6:31-32)
About a year ago, I consciously learned a hard lesson about the importance of making time to rest. A few years ago, I was exhausted. Physically I was tired. Emotionally I was drained. Spiritually I was fatigued. Even still, I discovered that people continued to expect me to be certain places and do certain things. It felt like if I could breathe, they wanted the breath. Can anyone relate to this? For my survival, I knew that I needed to take a break. I needed to rest which I did out of necessity.
Fortunately for me, during my time of rest I was surrounded by a wealth of love. (Make sure you have people in your life who love you.) I was able to re-establish balance, revisit things that makes me happy, sharpen my focus and strengthen my self. For me, studying my Bible and numerous biblical principles—deepening my awareness of what I believe for me—laid the foundation for these things and more.
There have been times when I would shake my head at the fact that I had to get to a point of being worn down in order to make resting a priority. Thankfully I have learned my lesson, however. As a result, I am able to see the blessings that come along with getting and maintaining proper rest—not just for myself, but for others.
It is alright to say, “No,” to invitations. Enjoy the ones you say, “Yes,” to though.
Drawing boundaries is a must. If you do not, the boundaries will draw upon you.
Finding a safe, quiet place to rest so that you will not become so overwhelmed by the expectations, chaos, and chatter of the world surrounding you, to the point that you can no longer hear from God is vital to your spiritual growth. Rest will point out to you that the asking of, “Where have you been,” has little to do with you. Rest will keep you humble. It will remind you from where your strength comes. It will elicit truth when asked, “How are you doing”.