My 2015: Friendships
That time of year has come when I take some time to re-evaluate my year. A year ago, I was determined to make some major changes and some major progress. My spirit had reached the point where it was no longer interested in playing second fiddle to anyone or anything. I knew that I was overdue in accepting God’s love and its manifestations in my life. Sure, I had been saying for a number of years prior that I wanted all that God wanted to bless me with and I wanted to be a blessing to others. The being a blessing to others part came easier for me. Well, at least I was half way there right?
My first test came early and it was in the area of people. (How fitting!) You see, I had walked away from one of my closest and dearest friends because of what turned out to be a misunderstanding. (OK. OK. I was in the mindset of NO DRAMA FROM NOWHERE! You can go! You can go! You can go too!) My friend fought for our friendship though and in doing so I gained a greater awareness of the responsibility of friendship.
How many of your friends would truly fight to keep you in their lives because they see the mutual benefit? (It is important that there is a mutual benefit.) How many call you or send an email or text when they have not heard from you in a while? How many do you treasure enough to make sure they are alright, that you pray for, that you walk close enough with to notice their absence and would put action behind your care to secure their presence?
Being attentive to my traveling buddies would be a continuous project in this new year (and beyond). Having gained a deeper appreciation of friendship—of what it means to me—and an opportunity to exercise forgiveness, I have been able to both expand my networking circle and be clear about my friendships. It has been interesting in that I have been able to accurately label my relationships with people and my purposes in those roles. When you know that your purpose is to help others, this awareness is vital. Being clear of my role and responsibilities has made me a better person.
Later in the year I would see how this experience would make it possible for me to be the friend asking for forgiveness in another situation. (The thought precedes the action.) Nobody is perfect. Even those who truly love you make mistakes. In this world where acts of terror get front page coverage, take a moment to assess the relationships in your lives. Time is precious. Make sure to invest it in those you treasure. It is funny how life prepares you.